Category: Challenging Topics

(Disclaimer: I suppose some of this could be considered controversial or unpopular. This is obviously being written as my personal opinions/beliefs and not meant to suggest that anyone who is doing things differently is doing something wrong.)

I work hard to make all students and their families feel welcome in my classroom. It’s important to me that everyone feels that their family has been considered carefully in my teaching and correspondence. Sometimes, it can be hard to see just how much bias is out there; it isn’t intentional, it isn’t malicious, but it can be hurtful just the same. A few years ago I took a step back and looked at what I was doing in the classroom. I examined everything carefully for any signs of bias. Here are a few of the changes I made after that critical thought:

1) I changed the wording on my class contact information sheet.

– I got rid of the words “mother” and “father”. By using “Parent/Guardian” instead, I was properly reflecting families with same sex parents, families where other relatives are caring for the child, and foster families. It’s a very simple thing but really can make someone feel valued and respected right from the start of the year.

– I added two spaces for parent/guardian, bringing the total up to four. For the child whose family is best reflected by using all of these spaces, such as blended families or polyamorous families, it can be very meaningful to be “allowed” and encouraged to include all of the guardians in their lives on their contact sheet.

– I included a space for parents to identify their child’s preferred name. I teach a program where many students are coming to our school from feeder schools. They are sometimes anxious, shy, and overwhelmed the first few days of school – not confident enough to tell a new teacher, who is a stranger, that they prefer a name other than what was on my board-issued class list.

 

2) My classroom is gender neutral.

– My bathroom passes are not a “boys’ pass” and a “girls’ pass”. I have two passes for the washroom. They are identical. I realize some people won’t like this and feel strongly that they should have one of each because they don’t want two students in the same washroom at the same time. I’m just telling you what works for me. You may have a student in your class who doesn’t identify with their biological sex, and asking them to take the girls’ pass when they don’t identify as female can cause some harm.

– I make an effort not to divide things by gender, such as in Phys Ed. Many students love playing “girls versus boys” in group games, but what they (and adults) often don’t realize is that this may be hurtful to some students in the class. Some of my transgender friends have told me that they knew they were transgender at a very young age, often before the age I teach (Grade 4), and for that reason I try to be cognizant of not asking students to identify with a particular gender.

 

3) I generally don’t celebrate holidays in the classroom. (This is contentious, I know. This is just what works for me and you may have strong feelings about this. That’s okay!)

– I don’t want my students to feel they need to miss an entire day of school if they don’t celebrate a particular holiday, such as Halloween. I let the school handle any Halloween celebration (such as a costume parade) but in my classroom, it’s generally a pretty standard day aside from changes to the schedule. I don’t mind costumes in the classroom, but I don’t do a day full of Halloween-centric activities and I don’t throw a party.

– Mother’s Day/Father’s Day activities can be very hurtful to students whose parents are estranged, deceased, or never existed (such as same sex couples where there is no mother or no father). I appreciate the sentiment behind having students create cards, crafts, etc. for their parents for these holidays, but we need to be aware of the harm we can do by making these activities part of our lessons for all students. Instead, I let students know that they can stay in during lunch/recess and I will provide them with supplies and help to create things for their parents if they choose.

– We don’t sing Christmas songs. There are many winter-themed songs you can sing with your class which aren’t about specific holidays. For the students in your class who don’t celebrate Christmas, being asked to sing songs about it can be a little uncomfortable.

– I don’t give out Christmas cards. I do give cards to my students on the last day before the break, but they generally wish students a happy new year. If I know that family celebrates Christmas, I may add a note about that.

 

That isn’t an exhaustive list of all the things I do to try and make an inclusive space, but it’s a start. This doesn’t come from a place of “political correctness” – rather, a place of kindness and compassion. If even one more person feels appreciated and celebrated in my classroom because I did these things, I consider it a worthwhile venture.