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Building Connections with Students

Be Authentic

The video of a teacher giving each of his students a “just for them” handshake each morning upon entry has gone viral.  His efforts to connect with students have been applauded.  I think that this is a wonderful way to create a bond between teacher and student; for THAT guy.  I know that this is not “my thing”.  If I were to choose to try this at the beginning of a new school year, it would not be genuine and it just wouldn’t feel right.  I’ve also often wonder what happens when a parent wants a word in the morning, or someone forgot their backpack on the bus, or there is a class trip leaving 5 minutes after the bell.  There are many ideas for connecting with students online, but you need to do what is genuine for you.  Otherwise, you won’t sustain it and the students see right through it.

Lunch

During the first few weeks of school I try to stay in my classroom while the kids eat lunch.  I will often eat my lunch at the same time as my students so that I can have the other half of lunch to relax, visit with colleagues or do some preparation.  I choose to do this for the first couple of weeks to make sure that the routines for lunch time are established and students understand my expectations around cleanliness, behaviour and technology use during lunch.  There are often different teachers on lunch duty, so it is helpful for them if the regular classroom teacher is in the room until they become acquainted with the students. When I take the time and effort to do this at the beginning of the year I find that there are less issues throughout the school year at lunch time.

Circle Chat

No matter what grade level, I have always started of my day chatting with kids.  In a circle format the students can share something, check in, ask a question or some days they pass (I will personally check in later to make sure everything is ok).  Sometimes we have topics, sometimes we have to discuss class updates but no matter what, we’ve connected in some way.  Yes, it takes instructional time.  Sometimes it takes up a LOT of time.  But, in my experience, it builds relationships with your students and saves time in the long run.

Front End Load Communication

Parents’ concern for the well being of their children seems to be at its highest point at the beginning of the school year.  It may be a new school, a new teacher, academic concerns from previous years or peer group concerns.  Taking the time to communicate during the first week of the school year by phone, note or at least a personal email in addition to class updates on websites or newsletters home will pay off during the rest of the school year.  The more you assure families that you are accessible and concerned about their child, the more supportive they will be if an issue arises.  Find the good in each student and make sure that you communicate it to families.  For the students that have academic or behaviour concerns, meet with families face to face as soon as possible.  Do not leave it until report card time.  I often start those conversations by asking them to voice their concerns, as well as asking their goals and hopes for their child for the school year.  Those positive and proactive attempts at communication at the beginning of the school year will go a long way with families and ultimately will benefit the student.

Take Your Job Seriously; Don’t Take Yourself Seriously.

About 10 years ago I picked up a pair of absolutely crazy novelty sunglasses.  No matter the weather, I wore them in the morning when I picked the students up at their bus lines and I wore them when I walked them out to their buses in the afternoon.  There were always comments from the students (and sometimes parents) and it was often a conversation starter when I could see that kids needed to be checked in on first thing in the morning or at the end of the day.  I began to get crazy sunglasses as gifts.  I now have about 60 pairs and wear different ones depending on my mood.  My staff humoured me and each wore a pair in the staff photo for the yearbook.  This might be something that you try in your classroom, I’m happy to share, but make sure it is something that suits you.

I remember being told by a colleague at the beginning of my career that you shouldn’t smile at your students during the first few weeks or even until Christmas.  I didn’t follow that advice, because it wasn’t genuine and authentic for me.  The way I see it, if you aren’t smiling at the beginning of the year, you can pretty much be guaranteed that you won’t be smiling at the end of the year!  Students feed off of the mood of the teacher.  Ultimately, the teacher makes the weather in the classroom.  There are days when I have to apply the “fake it until you make it” strategy and I smile until I really feel like smiling.  I also highly recommend a morning music mix for the way to work.  Put together 5 or 6 songs (or more depending on the length of your commute) that really motivate you, make you bouncy and make you smile.  On the days where I know I’m tense, in a mood or haven’t slept well I put this on during my drive and usually by the end I’m singing along and feeling better.  Then, I slide on those crazy sunglasses and I’m in tip-top teacher mode ready to greet every student with their name and a smile.  I may not have individual handshakes ready to go but after 23 years…I still start the year off smiling.

 

 

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My Yearly Notebook

Each summer I buy a brand new spiral bound notebook.  Not the skinny ones that you get in the 3 pack from Hilroy with the flimsy cover that rips within a few uses. I am particular about my stationary.  It may be a kind of a problem.  I get the 8 1/2 by 11 solid cardboard spiral bound notebook.  It is where I keep my lists.  Lists of things to buy for the classroom.  Lists of things I want to change in the physical space of my classroom.  Lists of books I’d like to read or add to my classroom library.  Lists of things to get done before September.  Lists of the curriculum topics I’ll be teaching and in what months I plan to teach them.  Lists of special events each month that I might highlight or celebrate with my students.  Lists…of lists.  I use that big notebook all school year long to add notes from meetings, professional development sessions and of course, more lists.  I have many already filled spiral notebooks of new ideas that I’d like to try over the school year on my shelf in my office.  This summer I realized something.  After the school year is over I have NEVER opened those notebooks again.  There are lots of great ideas in there that I didn’t implement and then I feel guilty about that!  Teacher guilt never seems to stop, unless of course, I choose to stop it.

This summer I quickly read the book, “Ditch That Textbook; Free Your Teaching and Revolutionize Your Classroom” by Matt Miller. It has fantastic teaching tips for technology integration in the classroom.  Although I do not have the desire nor the access to the 1:1 technology to go completely paperless, I found a lot of wisdom and great teaching tools in Matt’s book.  I have also provided a link to Matt’s blog.  Matt helped me to break a cycle.  I haven’t bought a spiral bound notebook this summer and I’m not planning on buying one.  Among many pieces of advice in the book, Matt suggests picking two new things that you are really excited about to add to your teaching practice, being clear about your intention for using those practices and following through.  I’ve been guilty of overdoing the professional learning to the point that I overwhelm my students by doing a whole bunch of new things all at once and then don’t end up sticking to any of them.  I also get overwhelmed by the many great ideas out there and wonder if I do something else, what I’ll have to give up doing.

I’ll admit that I’m already kind of cheating.  Instead of just choosing two teaching practices I’m also choosing two new technology platforms to learn about for next year.  One of the practices that I would like to get in the habit of doing is adding more descriptive feedback to assignments that students do online and have multiple opportunities for the students to respond to that feedback and re-submit assignments with changes.  The second thing that I would like to do is educate parents on how to leave constructive feedback for their students online rather than a thumbs up or “Good job!”  I plan on exploring the video and audio creation tools, WeVideo and Voki.  I may explore more than these but these are the ones that I am committed to doing.  Since I have written my commitment here on the blog, I also commit to sharing what I thought about those tools in a review format.  If you get a chance to read Ditch That Textbook, I highly recommend it. It is a quick read with great already-made lists and hey, it made me “Ditch That Notebook”.

 

Michelle Fenn Constant Learning, Inspiring Teachers, Making a Difference Through Education, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Professional Learning and Growth, Resilience, wellness

Teacher Guilt

I have felt guilty about my job since the first year that I started teaching.  I have always felt that I did not do enough, didn’t contact parents enough, didn’t make it fun enough, didn’t write down observations or assessments enough, didn’t do enough intervention with those struggling readers, writers, mathematicians, didn’t do all of the wonderful Pinterest extras, didn’t go above and beyond enough, didn’t volunteer for enough extra curricular activities, didn’t give enough timely critical feedback, didn’t document behaviour enough, didn’t post enough on Seesaw and the big one is not feeling like I get enough work done on the weekend.  When I told a colleague about this recently he said, “If you were only doing half of the things that you do, you would still be working harder than me and a whole bunch of your colleagues!” I thought to myself, “Really?  I thought everyone else was working harder and doing more than I was and seemed to have it all together.”  The truth of it is though, most of us feel like I do and we feel the same way about our colleagues.   Rationally, I know that we can’t “do” it all.  However, I somehow feel that I might if I just keep trying!  Crazy, right?

I lamented to a friend recently that I don’t get enough done on a weekend and always feel guilty on Sunday night.  “I have 48 hours every weekend.  You’d think I’d be able to get something done! I manage to watch Netflix and read my book.  Why do I feel like such a lazy teacher every Sunday night?”   Her wise answer was this, “You think you have 48 hours to do work?  I suggest you write down what you do in a weekend, write everything down from sleeping to eating to doing the laundry and driving your son around.  You’ll see you don’t have 48 hours to do work.  You also need to balance with family time and self care.  Reading your book or watching Netflix is not being a lazy teacher.  It is practicing self care.”  So, I did it.  I wrote down everything I did in a weekend.  Guess what?  I had precisely 3-4 hours to do some teacher type work which is on average the amount of work I do practically every weekend.

Social media keeps me connected with friends and family all over the world.  Sometimes, however, it also becomes a land mine for guilt.  I find myself thinking, “I should be doing that or what a great idea!”  I used to send home a hand painted pumpkin at Halloween and hand painted Christmas decorations for every student every year. When I stopped doing it, no one said a word. That is not what the students remember me for years later.  They remember the connection and the relationship.  They remember my quirky sense of humour and the hand puppet named Butch who is a little irreverent and likes to use the word underwear in whatever song it will fit.  I have discovered that I’m not the Pinterest teacher and I have to be okay with that.

After20+ years of teaching I still struggle in thinking that I haven’t done enough but I’m trying to look at all of the things that we have accomplished this year rather than all of the “great ideas” on the many lists that I didn’t accomplish.  I will cut myself some slack.  I will look at self care as a positive and necessary thing and not a lazy one.  On the lists I make now I will put family time first, accompanied by good sleeping habits and good eating habits.  Keeping me healthy makes me a better teacher and a better person.  So if you struggle like I do, here is a video that a friend suggested to me to help me get through those negative self-talk times when I feel that I am not enough.

Stop It.

You won’t regret watching it.  I promise it will make you smile.

Deb Weston Anti-bullying, Behaviour Management, Building Inclusion, Classroom Management, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Special Education, wellness

Recognizing and Responding to Mental Health Problems Among Students

Supporting Minds

SupportingMinds

An Educator’s Guide to Promoting Students’ Mental Health and Well-being

Government of Ontario Draft 2013

Note that dealing with mental health problems among students is highly complex and challenging. Often students are not responsive to using mindfulness and self-regulation strategies as their significant mental health needs require the support of professionals such as doctors, psychologists, and therapists. Educators cannot diagnose mental health issues.

As stated below, educators can support their students by observing and documenting possible triggers and behaviours.

How to Use Supporting Minds Document

The Supporting Minds document is presented in two parts.

Part One provides an overview of mental health and addiction problems and guidance about the role of educators in supporting students’ mental health and well-being.

Part Two contains eight sections, each dedicated to a particular mental health problem. Each section is structured to first provide educators the information they need to recognize mental health problems in their students and offer appropriate support (under such headings as “What Is Depression?”, “What Do Symptoms of Depression Look Like?”, and “What Can Educators Do?”). Background information about the particular type of mental health problem is given towards the end of each section. Hyperlinks to resources that provide more detailed information are included throughout.

Please refer to the Supporting Minds document for more in depth information.

Knowing Your Students

A first step in recognizing whether a student has a mental health problem may be simply documenting the behaviour that is causing concern. School boards may have their own forms on which to record this information. Once several observations of the particular behaviour have been gathered, educators can share these with others who can help to develop a plan to manage the behaviour.

Educators should look for three things when considering whether a student is struggling with a mental health and/or addiction problem:

  • Frequency: How often does the student exhibit the behaviour?
  • Duration: How long does the behaviour last?
  • Intensity: To what extent does the behaviour interfere with the student’s social and academic functioning?

Highlighted Mental Health Challenges

1. Anxiety in Students

 COMMON SIGNS OF ANXIETY

Although different signs of anxiety occur at different ages, in general, common signs include the following. The student:

  • has frequent absences from school;
  • asks to be excused from making presentations in class;
  • shows a decline in grades;
  • is unable to work to expectations;
  • refuses to join or participate in social activities;
  • avoids school events or parties;
  • exhibits panicky crying or freezing tantrums and/or clingy behaviour before or after an activity or social situation (e.g., recess, a class activity);
  • worries constantly before an event or activity, asking questions such as “What if …?” without feeling reassured by the answers;
  • often spends time alone, or has few friends;
  • has great difficulty making friends;
  • has physical complaints (e.g., stomach-aches) that are not clearly attributable to a physical health condition;
  • worries excessively about things like homework or grades or everyday routines;
  • has frequent bouts of tears;
  • is easily frustrated;
  • is extremely quiet or shy;
  • fears new situations;
  • avoids social situations for fear of negative evaluations by others (e.g., fear of being laughed at);
  • has dysfunctional social behaviours;
  • is rejected by peers.

(Based on information from: CYMHIN-MAD, 2011; Hincks-Dellcrest-ABCs, n.d.) Note: This list provides some examples but is not exhaustive and should not be used for diagnostic purposes.

 STRATEGIES TO REDUCE STRESS FOR ALL STUDENTS

  • Create a learning environment where mistakes are viewed as a natural part of the learning process.
  • Provide predictable schedules and routines in the classroom.
  • Provide advance warning of changes in routine.
  • Provide simple relaxation exercises that involve the whole class.
  • Encourage students to take small steps towards accomplishing a feared task.

(Based on information from: CYMHIN-MAD, 2011; Hincks-Dellcrest-ABCs, n.d.)

See Supporting Minds document Table 1.1 for Specific strategies for supporting students with anxiety-related symptoms

2. Depression in Students

 COMMON SIGNS OF DEPRESSION

Some common signs associated with depression include the following:

  • ongoing sadness
  • irritable or cranky mood
  • annoyance about or overreaction to minor difficulties or disappointments
  • loss of interest/pleasure in activities that the student normally enjoys
  • feelings of hopelessness
  • fatigue/lack of energy
  • low self-esteem or a negative self-image
  • feelings of worthlessness or guilt
  • difficulty thinking, concentrating, making decisions, or remembering
  • difficulty completing tasks (e.g., homework)
  • difficulty commencing tasks and staying on task, or refusal to attempt tasks
  • defiant or disruptive behaviour; getting into arguments
  • disproportionate worry over little things
  • feelings of being agitated or angry
  • restlessness; behaviour that is distracting to other students
  • negative talk about the future
  • excessive crying over relatively small things
  • frequent complaints of aches and pains (e.g., stomach-aches and headaches)
  • spending time alone/reduced social interaction; withdrawn behaviour and difficulty sustaining friendships
  • remaining in the back of the classroom and not participating
  • refusal to do school work, and general non-compliance with rules
  • negative responses to questions about not working (e.g., “I don’t know”; “It’s not important”; “No one cares, anyway”)
  • arriving late or skipping school; irregular attendance
  • declining marks
  • suicidal thoughts, attempts, or acts
  • change in appetite
  • loss of weight or increase in weight
  • difficulty sleeping (e.g., getting to sleep, staying asleep)

(Based on information from: Calear, 2012; CYMHIN-MAD, 2011; APA, 2000; Hincks-Dellcrest-ABCs, n.d.) Note: This list provides some examples of symptoms or signs but is not exhaustive and should not be used for diagnostic purposes.

 STRATEGIES THAT CAN HELP ALL STUDENTS DEVELOP AND MAINTAIN A POSITIVE OUTLOOK

  • Support class-wide use of coping strategies and problem-solving skills.
  • Provide all students with information about normal growth and development and ways to cope with stress (e.g., ways to address peer pressure, build friendships, address depressive feelings, maintain good sleep hygiene, build exercise into each day).
  • Write instructions on the board to provide a visual cue for students who are having trouble focusing on spoken information.
  • Model and teach optimistic and positive attitudes, language, and actions.
  • Work with students’ strengths and build on them when they complete activities in class.
  • Provide students with responsibilities and tasks that they may enjoy (e.g., allow students who enjoy computer use to incorporate a computing component into tasks; allow art-loving students to choose illustrated reading materials).
  • Provide a space in the classroom for students to go to when they are feeling overwhelmed.
  • Help students to chunk assignments and prepare for tests well in advance of deadlines.

(Based on information from: Evans et al., 2002; Hincks-Dellcrest-ABCs, n.d.)

See Supporting Minds document Table 2.1 for Specific strategies for supporting students with depression-related symptoms

 3. Bipolar Disorder in Students

 COMMON SIGNS OF BIPOLAR DISORDER

Some common signs to watch for include the following:

  • extremely abnormal mood states (generally lasting weeks or more) and involving a depressed or manic mood
  • depressive symptoms (see the section on depression)
  • manic symptoms, including:
  • feeling extraordinarily self-confident, in a manner that is out of character for the student
  • extreme irritability or changeable, “up and down” (labile) moods that are not typical for the student
  • grandiose and illogical ideas about personal abilities (e.g., the student believes he/she has supernatural powers)
  • extremely impaired judgement compared to usual ability
  • a perception that thoughts are racing
  • extreme changes in speech, particularly very fast speech or talking as if he/she can’t get the words out fast enough
  • explosive, lengthy, and often destructive rages that are out of character for the student
  • new or marked hyperactivity, agitation, and distractibility
  • “dare-devil”, risk-taking behaviour

(Based on information from: CYMHIN-MAD, 2011) Note: This list provides some examples but is not exhaustive and should not be used for diagnostic purposes.

In addition, the cognitive functioning of students with diagnosed bipolar disorder may be affected, so that they have difficulty:

  • paying attention;
  • remembering and recalling information;
  • using problem-solving skills;
  • using critical thinking skills and categorizing and organizing information;
  • quickly coordinating eye-hand movements;
  • staying focused on a topic.

See Supporting Minds document Table 2.2 for Specific strategies for supporting students diagnosed with bipolar disorder

 4. Students with Attention and Hyperactivity and/or Impulsivity Problems

SUBTYPES OF Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder

The following three subtypes of ADHD have been identified:

(1) predominantly inattentive (without symptoms of hyperactivity/impulsivity)

(2) predominantly hyperactive/impulsive (without symptoms of inattention)

(3) predominantly combined (symptoms of both inattention and hyperactivity/ impulsivity)

 (Eiraldi et al., 2012). The combined type (inattention and hyperactivity/impulsivity) is the most common of the three. (Based on information from: APA, 2000)

 COMMON SIGNS OF ATTENTION DISORDERS

Some common signs of attention problems and/or hyperactivity/impulsivity include the following:

Attention problems: The student:

  • is easily distracted;
  • fails to pay attention to details and makes careless mistakes;
  • forgets things (e.g., pencils) that are needed to complete a task;
  • loses things often;
  • has difficulty organizing tasks;
  • finds it hard to concentrate;
  • follows directions incompletely or improperly;
  • frequently doesn’t finish tasks;
  • does not listen to what is being said when spoken to;
  • avoids or shows strong dislike for schoolwork or homework that requires sustained mental effort (dedicated thinking).

(Based on information from: CYMHIN-MAD, 2011; APA, 2000; CAMH, 2007)

Hyperactivity/Impulsivity: The student:

  • has difficulty sitting still or remaining in seat;
  • fidgets;
  • has difficulty staying in one place;
  • talks excessively or all the time;
  • is overly active, which may disturb peers or family members;
  • has difficulty playing quietly;
  • is always on the move;
  • has feelings of restlessness (for adolescents);
  • is unable to suppress impulses such as making inappropriate comments;
  • interrupts conversations;
  • shouts out answers before the end of the question or without being called on;
  • hits others;
  • has difficulty waiting for a turn;
  • is easily frustrated;
  • displays poor judgement.

(Based on information from: CYMHIN-MAD, 2011; APA, 2000; CAMH, 2007) Note: This list provides some examples but is not exhaustive and should not be used for diagnostic purposes.

 STRATEGIES THAT PROMOTE A CALM CLASSROOM ATMOSPHERE TO HELP ALL STUDENTS PAY ATTENTION

  • Provide a structured environment and a consistent daily routine.
  • Provide advance warning of changes in routines or activities.
  • Establish a routine and set of rules for moving from one activity to the next.
  • Establish procedures that allow all students equal opportunities to participate in activities (e.g., establish rules for turn taking; arrange for everyone to get a chance to be first).
  • Provide easy-to-follow directions and instructions (e.g., explain one step at a time; chunk multi-step directions).
  • Post rules where everyone can see them.
  • Reinforce positive behaviour such as raising a hand before speaking, engaging in quiet work.
  • Provide opportunities to learn by doing to give students an outlet for excess energy.
  • Limit visual and auditory distractions in the classroom as much as possible while considering the needs of all students.
  • When talking to students, address them directly and use eye contact. Wait until a student is paying attention before continuing a conversation.
  • Avoid a focus on competition, as students’ urge to win or be first can increase the likelihood of impulsive behaviour.

(Based on information from: House, 2002; CAMH, 2007)

See Supporting Minds document Table 3.1 for Specific strategies for supporting students with attention and hyperactivity/impulsivity problem

5. Behaviour Disorder in Students

 COMMON SIGNS OF BEHAVIOUR DISORDERS

Some common indicators of problem behaviour include the following:

  • defiance (persistent stubbornness; resistance to following directions; unwillingness to compromise, give in, or negotiate)
  • persistent testing of limits (by ignoring, arguing, not accepting blame)
  • persistent hostile mood
  • lack of empathy, guilt, or remorse, and a tendency to blame others for his/her own mistakes
  • low self-esteem that may masquerade as “toughness”
  • acting aggressively
  • disobedience
  • oppositional behaviour (e.g., challenging or arguing with authority figures)
  • bullying, threatening, or intimidating others
  • initiating fights or displaying physical violence/cruelty
  • using weapons
  • stealing
  • deliberate destruction of property
  • frequent lying
  • serious violations of rules (e.g., in early adolescents, staying out late when forbidden to do so)
  • skipping school often
  • outbursts of anger, low tolerance for frustration, irritability
  • recklessness; risk-taking acts

Signs that the problem may be serious include the following:

  • The student shows problems with behaviour for several months, is repeatedly disobedient, talks back, or is physically aggressive.
  • The behaviour is out of the ordinary and is a serious violation of the accepted rules in the family and community (e.g., vandalism, theft, violence).
  • The behaviour goes far beyond childish mischief or adolescent rebelliousness.
  • The behaviour is not simply a reaction to something stressful that is happening in the student’s life (e.g., widespread crime in the community, poverty).

(Based on information from: APA, 2000; CPRF, 2005; Hincks-Dellcrest-ABCs, n.d.) Note: These lists provide some examples but are not exhaustive and should not be used for diagnostic purposes.

 STRATEGIES THAT PROMOTE POSITIVE BEHAVIOUR AMONG ALL STUDENTS

  • Provide predictable schedules and routines in the classroom.
  • Focus the students’ attention before starting the lesson.
  • Use direct instruction to clarify what will be happening.
  • Model the quiet, respectful behaviour students are expected to demonstrate.
  • Create an inviting classroom environment that may include a quiet space, with few distractions, to which a student can retreat.
  • Be aware of the range of needs of the students in the class in order to provide an appropriate level of stimulation.
  • Communicate expectations clearly and enforce them consistently. Use clear statements when speaking to students: “I expect you to …” or “I want you to…”.
  • Focus on appropriate behaviour. Use rules that describe the behaviour you want, not the behaviour you are discouraging (e.g., Instead of saying “No fighting”, say “Settle conflicts appropriately”).
  • At the beginning of the school year, clearly and simply define expectations for honesty, responsibility, and accountability at school. Repeat these expectations often to the entire class, especially when violations occur.
  • Don’t focus too much attention on children who blame others, since that might inadvertently reinforce the behaviour.
  • Begin each day with a clean slate.
  • Facilitate the transition from the playground to the classroom by calmly telling students when there are five minutes left and then one minute left in recess, encouraging them to prepare to come in, and helping them settle in class when recess is over. Schedule a predictable classroom activity that most students will enjoy to follow recess, to help provide a smooth transition.

(Based on information from: CYMHIN-MAD, 2011; Hincks-Dellcrest-ABCs, n.d; Lee, 2012)

See document Table 4.1 for Specific strategies for supporting students with behavioural problems in classrooms

 Please see the Supporting Minds  document for further information on 

  • Eating and weight-related problems in students
  • Substance use problems in students
  • Gambling in students
  • Self-harm and suicide in students

Taking care of self as an educator

(Supporting Minds, Appendix C: Mental Health Action Signs)

Your behavioural health is an important part of your physical health. If you are experiencing any of these feelings, let your doctor know.

  1. Feeling very sad or withdrawn for more than 2 weeks
  2. Seriously trying to harm or kill yourself, or making plans to do so
  3. Sudden overwhelming fear for no reason, sometimes with a racing heart or fast breathing
  4. Involvement in many fights, using a weapon, or wanting to badly hurt others
  5. Severe out-of-control behaviour that can hurt yourself or others
  6. Not eating, throwing up, or using laxatives to make yourself lose weight
  7. Intense worries or fears that get in the way of your daily activities
  8. Extreme difficulty in concentrating or staying still that puts you in physical danger or causes school failure
  9. Repeated use of drugs or alcohol
  10. Severe mood swings that cause problems in relationships
  11. Drastic changes in your behaviour or personality

Source: The Reach Institute, The “Action Signs” Project, p. 6. Retrieved from http://www.thereachinstitute.org/files/documents/action-signs-toolkit-final.pdf

Dealing with students with mental health needs can be very challenging and draining.

Be kind to yourself and practice self care.

Reach out for help and support if you need it.

Collaboratively Yours,

Deb Weston

 

Deb Weston Challenging Topics, General, Health & Safety, Learning About Your Students, Making a Difference Through Education, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Resilience, wellness

Building Self Care and Resiliency for Educators

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Road rerouted to preserve 250 year old Bronte White Oak Tree 

“The strongest oak of the forest is not the one that is protected from the storm and hidden from the sun. It is the one that stands in the open, where it is compelled to struggle for its existence against the winds and rains and the scorching sun.” Napoleon Hill (1883–1970)

Building Self Care and Resiliency for Educators

As educators, we deal with students and colleague who are under stress. As educators, we are at risk of being physically, mentally, and/or emotionally worn out due to our role as caregivers to our students. This feeling of being worn out can be referred to as compassion fatigue or secondary traumatic stress (Figley, 1995). Charles Figley states that “there is a cost to caring.”

The best way to deal with and limit compassion fatigue is through early recognition and self awareness.

A. Tips for Educators

(adapted from Charles Figley, 1995)

1. Be aware of the signs of compassion fatigue

  • increased irritability or impatience with students
  • difficulty planning classroom activities and lessons, decreased concentration
  • feeling numb or detached from students’ challenges
  • increased feelings and intrusive thoughts about school or dreams about challenges in school

2. Reach out for support – Don’t go it alone

  • isolation can impact ability to cope
  • get support from colleagues or your school teams
  • ask for support from administration

3. Recognize compassion fatigue as an occupational hazard

  • when educators open their hearts and ears to students’ trauma, compassion fatigue can occur
  • having a strong reaction to student trauma is not a sign of weakness or incompetence but instead it is means you care … it is the cost of caring

4. Seek help with your own trauma by seeking support for self

  • educators’ unresolved issues can put them at more risk of compassion fatigue or stress
  • seeking support for self can help educators deal with limiting compassion fatigue or stress

5. Attend to self care

  • self care is an effective way to guard against burn out from compassion fatigue or stress
  • self care helps educators deal with challenging workplace stress
  • key self care strategies include eating well, sleeping well, exercising, taking a break during the workday, taking time to self-reflect, making time to de-stress
  • know your triggers for stress

B. Stress management: Know your triggers/stressors

In order to manage stress better, you need to know your stressors or triggers. (Adapted from Mayo Clinic Staff, n.d.)

Main types of stress: Stress is your body’s reaction to the demands of work and life. Stressors are events or conditions in your surroundings that may trigger stress. Your body responds to stressors differently depending on whether the stressor is new or short term (Acute stress) or whether the stressor has been around for a longer time (Chronic stress).

Acute stress: Also known as the fight-or-flight response, acute stress is your body’s immediate reaction to a perceived threat, challenge or scare. The acute-stress response is immediate and intense, and in certain circumstances it can be thrilling. Examples of acute stressors include having a job interview or getting a speeding ticket.
A single episode of acute stress generally doesn’t cause problems for healthy people. However, severe acute stress can cause mental health problems — such as post-traumatic stress disorder. It can also cause physical difficulties such as tension headaches, stomach problems or serious health issues — such as a heart attack.

Chronic stress: Mild acute stress can actually be beneficial — it can spur you into action, motivate and energize you. The problem occurs when stressors pile up and stick around. This persistent stress can lead to health problems, such as headaches and insomnia. The chronic-stress response is more subtle than is the acute-stress response, but the effects may be longer lasting and more problematic.

Effective stress management involves identifying and managing both acute and chronic stress. Check out developing a self care plan below!

C. Build Resiliency

(Adapted from CAMH Resiliency & Short Term Self Care, n.d. )

Resilience is frequently described as the capacity to thrive and fulfill one’s potential despite (or perhaps because of) stressful circumstances. All of us are resilient in one way or another, but some people seem to be more resilient. These people are inclined to see challenges as learning opportunities which can result in healthy emotional growth and development.

Factors that are characteristic of resilient people include:

  • a sense of closeness and connectedness to others
  • strong, dependable support from at least one significant other in their lives
  • attention to their own personal health and well-being
  • high self-esteem, a strong sense of personal identity
  • a sense of humor can help you overlook the unattractive, tolerate the unpleasant, cope with the unexpected and smile through the unbearable.
  • a realistic and balanced awareness of their strengths and limitations
  • the ability to be assertive and emotionally tough when necessary, but also sensitive and compassionate
  • a playful, lighthearted approach to life
  • a sense of direction and purpose in life
  • the ability to turn difficult experiences into valuable learning opportunities
  • the capacity to pick themselves up, shake themselves off and keep moving forward after traumatic and upsetting situations
  • the ability to adapt to and live comfortably with uncertainty and unpredictability
  • the ability to laugh at themselves. Resilient people do not “sweat the small stuff.”

 D. Short-term Strategies: Putting on the brakes to relieve stress

Short-term strategies that help ease anxiety are unique to each person. List the quick wins that might be most helpful for you, and add to your list when something comes up that you find pleasant or re-energizing.

Here are some simple ways to relieve stress that I use:

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  • eat your lunch away from your classroom or workspace
  • talk to a colleague
  • help a colleague
  • tell a joke
  • take a walk
  • ask for help
  • ask for advice
  • stretch
  • 4-7-8 breathing 4 in-7 hold-8 out
  • bake something and share it with colleagues
  • make jam
  • practice kindness for colleagues – do something kind for a colleague to make their day better

 E. Making it Personal

Here are some quizzes you can do to help you know yourself and how you deal with stress!

Self Assessment for Stress and Burnout

“How Resilient Are You?” by A. Siebert (resiliencycenter.com)

“The Resiliency Quiz” by N. Henderson (resiliency.com/htm/resiliencyquiz.htm)

Making a self care plan that works for me

Write down strategies you use to relieve stress in your life. Self care is not just about the self, self care means looking out for other people who work with educators.

F. Connecting self care and Resiliency …

Ontario College of Teacher (OCT) Standards of Practice and Ontario Institute for Education Leadership (OLF)

Connect to OCT Standards of Practice and OLF

As educators we do more than “just teach”, we care for our students and our colleagues. Teaching is about relationships and caring. I became a teacher to make the world a better place one student at a time and one day at a time.

Be good to yourself so you can be there for your students. Be an oak tree!

Collaboratively Yours,

Deb Weston

References

Figley, C. R. (1995). Compassion fatigue: Secondary traumatic stress disorders from treating the traumatized. New York: Brunner/Mazel, 7.

Mayo Clinic Staff, (n.d.) Stress management: Know your triggers  http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/stress-management/art-20044151

O’Grady, C. P., & Skinner, J. W., (2007) MSCAMH A Family Guide to Concurrent Disorders (CAMH Resiliency & Short Term Self Care) Downloaded from  http://www.camh.ca/en/hospital/health_information/a_z_mental_health_and_addiction_information/concurrent_disorders/a_family_guide_to_concurrent_disorders/selfcare/Pages/shortterm_selfcare.aspx

Stress Cat (n.d.) http://www.lessons4living.com/stresscat.htm

Deb Weston agency, Health & Safety, wellness, wellness, Wellness

Precarious Absences – The impact of teacher intervention truancy systems

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I write this blog in response to watching a highly capable and talented, long-term occasional teacher worrying about taking time off to go to a medical appointment. She actually considered cancelling her appointment as she worried about taking too much time off school because she thought it would impact her chance for a full-time teacher contract. Supply teachers and long term occasional teachers are feeling the pressure of not taking time off to meet their self care and medical needs. And this is the place where all teachers are at.

In the past few years, school boards have started using teacher intervention truancy systems. These systems track how many days teachers take off for reasons such as being sick, attending medical/dental appointments, or taking time off to care for family.

When I started teaching 18 years ago, I had 20 sick days which could be “banked” and then “cashed out” at the end of my career. As a teacher, I did not want to take time off if I did not have to … as it is a lot of work to make day plans to be off. But, as a single parent at the time, if my children were ill, I had to take time off. Also note that I got sick too. As a teacher, I am on average exposed to many children … up to 100 a day (I counted).

Then, I few years ago, teachers’ 20 sick days were reduced to 11 sick days, plus family responsibility days. This meant that teachers could no longer “bank” sick days and received a reduced salary after the 11th sick day.

Children (i.e. viral conduits) are very good at transferring their illnesses to their parents and teachers. Over my 18 years of teaching I’ve contracted a plethora of infections including many bacterial and viral infections, skin infections, eye infections, Whopping Cough (twice), Norwalk virus (twice), many weeks of bronchitis, several bouts of flu including H1N1, and lots of colds. With my doctor’s insistence, in the spring of 2017, I ended up taking 12 days off from school due to my ongoing bronchitis.

Once my health was marginal enough for me to return to work, I did coughing away, sucking on cough drops, drinking tea with honey, and carrying a tissue box around to blow my nose. Hey, it was report card time – I needed to get back!

Recently, some Ontario school boards started tracking teachers’ absences. The “teacher intervention truancy systems” notes when teachers take more than 3 sick days off in a 3 month period. At this point, the teachers are sent letters documenting that they were being put on a program to track their absences … like they were not really sick and just needed to take a day off. Let me say again that it is a lot of work to planning for being away from the classroom.

In the “teacher intervention truancy systems”, teachers have to document their absences with notes to prove they were either really sick or really attending medical/dental appointments. Note that I have had to pay $20 out of my own pocket to document my sick days, for each appointment!. In addition, to make things more interesting, teachers in some schools were told not to take half days off as schools were finding it difficult to find supply teachers who would work only half days. This tells me boards have to hire more supply teachers!

Based on my observation, I believe that this “teacher intervention truancy system” is casting a wide net to catch some people who may be abusing sick days. But based on my own experience and that of my colleagues, I believe that, since teachers are subjected to so many children’s illnesses, the relative number of sick days are too few. Teachers need more sick days!

Based on my own health experience, I believe the “teacher intervention truancy systems” have impeded by ability to meet my own self care and medical needs  – it has resulted in me having to choose between being sick or going to medical appointments. I believe that if I had taken the time I needed to rest, I would not have been off sick for so long, away from my students.

I wonder how new teachers are doing with the management of their self care, given their own family responsibilities and the care of their own health.

I find it ironic that school boards talk a lot about supporting employee health but their walk is not supporting employee health.

Collaboratively Yours,

Deb Weston

Downloadable Adaptable Emergency Lesson Plans

If you are even too sick to go to school and you have no day plans yet, I have attached a 5-day Emergency Lesson Plan that can be adapted to your classroom/grade level. Download it, change it, make it your own!

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5 Day Plan Schedule Emerngency Lesson Plan.xls (1)

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Note: The term “teacher intervention truancy systems” is my own acronym.

Tammy Axt General, Mental Health, wellness

Taking care of yourself in December

Now that the hustle and bustle of progress reports is done and parent-teacher interview night is over, I am exhausted. I find this time of the year to be the longest stretch of the school year and these next four weeks to be the most demanding on me mentally and physically. Although my body and mind feel like they should be at home relaxing on my couch, I have four solid weeks of instruction to deliver, an AQ to complete and a Christmas concert to gear up for. There is no time to rest just yet! However, this is my eighth time through December at school and I have learned a few things along the way. Below are my survival tips for the next four weeks.

Survival Tip #1: Keep to your regular routine in class as much as possible. This is tough with concerts, sing along assemblies and parties in late December; however, kids get cranky and forgetful of the school rules when so many routines are disrupted. To limit the amount of negative interactions with your students, continue with normal Math lessons and guided reading circles throughout the month to mitigate all the changes happening.

Survival Tip#2: Continue your exercise routine as much as possible. Just like the kids, there are so many disruptions to our lives in December. I have multiple holiday parties that I am committed to attend, baking to do, and presents to buy. It is really easy to get overwhelmed at this time of year. However, no matter how busy I get, I drag myself to my swimming and spin classes this time of year as I always feel better when I am done. I also am a better partner and teacher when I have had one hour of a spin instructor yelling at me (I guess when you are trying your best just to keep your legs moving, you don’t have time to worry about anything else).

Survival Tip #3: Do assessments in class. This is a great time of year to have students do oral presentations, skits, or hands-on math activities in class to demonstrate their knowledge. Have your rubric/checkbric/criteria checklist etc. ready and mark them in the moment. This will encourage you to take home less marking and keep you fresher for student feedback during the day.

Survival Tip #4: Choose your battles. This tip really applies to every day of the school year but I really try to remind myself of this in December. Some students have a really hard time with the transition into the break. For students who are going home to a two-week holiday filled with fighting, substance abuse or neglect, this break can be really long and stressful. That anticipatory anxiety and stress can display itself in behaviour that is really challenging to deal with. Try your best to stay calm and choose your battles if the student’s behaviour is not impacting your ability to instruct the class. Talk to the student at a quiet moment to see if they need support.

Survival Tip #5: Attempt to eat right. I say attempt, as my mother-in-law’s sausage rolls and jam tarts always get me. However, weight gain, upset stomachs and crazy sugar crashes that are very prevalent this time of year are not great factors for running the marathon that is the last four weeks of December.

Ultimately, it is very important to take care of you in December. I know it may seem selfish, but you will have so much more to give to your students, family and friends. Good luck and have a great December!

Kelly.McLaughlin Celebrating Success, Challenging Topics, Constant Learning, Diverse Learning Needs, Inspiring Teachers, Learning About Your Students, Making a Difference Through Education, Mental Health, Mentorship, Mindfulness, Professional Learning and Growth, Questioning, Resources, Wellness, wellness

Book group

A colleague of mine started a book club for educators in our school. We read the book “The boy who was raised as a dog” which takes you on the journey of various stories from the child psychiatrist, Bruce D. Perry. The book group involved seven to eight educators discussing the assigned chapters we had read for the week. I highly recommend this read for any teachers who have ever struggled with a “challenging” student. The book details the accounts of many children Perry encountered whose traumatic past altered their future. The book teaches all teachers to have a compassion that is so necessary for these traumatized children.

We discussed many things during our meetings each week. We started discussing the chapters but the conversations always had a way of covering anything and everything. The meetings helped me go into each day with an open mind and a compassion for a child’s situation that I did not have before. You rarely think of the reason someone behaves “badly” or defiantly. We may just assume that that is the way that child is. Many of us may have not stopped to think of the reason for that action. Realistically, we all have a lot on our plates that day and we may be thinking of a quick way to discipline the child. The book helped our book group members to think of ways to help these children in class so that they may have a successful future outside of it.

Today was our last meeting and we took the last twenty minutes to reflect on our love for teaching. How amazing of a feeling it is when you have that moment in the classroom (or outside) when you just get that feeling of “this is the most incredible job on earth!” We all discussed moments we have felt like that and how incredibly lucky we are to be teachers. The book group was a great way to celebrate and to continue our love for learning. If anyone would like more information about this book, please let me know. The book could change your entire outlook on those “tough” situations, reminding us never to give up on a child or to jump to negative conclusions especially when we do not know their entire situation.

Michelle Fenn Constant Learning, Inspiring Students, Inspiring Teachers, Mental Health, Mindfulness, self reflection, wellness, Wellness, wellness

Mindfulness Tips for Stress Reduction

I’ve recently spent some time with fellow educators and health care practitioners in order to find solutions to an all too prevalent issue.  Burn out, stress, compassion fatigue or empathy fatigue; whatever you call it, it is a reality for those in caring professions like teaching and health care.  The room was filled with women from all over the province.  Although our stories were different, we were all exhausted, overwhelmed, and consumed by feelings of guilt and inadequacy.  We had a common purpose for coming together; to find ways to put mindfulness and stress reduction into our daily living.  
The most common excuse that people use with regards to self-care is that they don’t have enough time.  I used to say the same thing.  Then I realized that if I have had enough time to watch two episodes of something on Netflix, I had enough time to go to the gym or cook a healthy meal.  As I have learned more about mindfulness and meditation I have realized that it doesn’t have take a huge amount of time and it really doesn’t take a whole lot of effort.  You just have to start.
I’m an “all or nothing” kind of person and a perfectionist.  I used to set lofty exercise, meditation and healthy eating goals for myself and then quit when I haven’t met these unrealistic expectations.  Now, I start one thing and do it, slowly and simply.  I try to adopt Nike’s “Just Do It” advertising campaign as my mindset towards mindfulness.  I have to remind myself to be patient, kind and compassionate around my mindfulness practice.  I forget, I get distracted and I feel disappointed in myself sometimes.  The most important thing that I try to remember is I can always begin again.  I can begin again every moment.  The judgment that I have about missing days at the gym or on my meditation cushion is my own.  There is no one that works at the gym that will berate me when I come through the door.  They will welcome me and I have never left the gym or my meditation cushion wishing that I had done something else with my time.  I thought it might be helpful to share some simple and quick ideas that can easily become habits in order to become more mindful and practice self care.

1.  Begin each morning by spending three or four minutes lying in bed awake before getting out of bed.  Pay attention to your breath and set your intention for the morning rather than shutting the alarm off and immediately swinging your legs to the floor.  It seems like such a simple thing, but it can make a positive impact on how you face the day.

2.  While doing any mundane task such as washing your hands you can simply pay more attention to the task.  Don’t try to multitask and don’t be on “auto-pilot”.  Be aware of what you are doing and do it slowly.  Actually enjoy the simple task of hand washing.  It may take you a few seconds longer but it gives your brain and body time to become more grounded.  Pay attention to your breath.  Are you holding your breath?  Are your shoulders tense?  Let the warm water flow over your hands and be grateful for the water we have.  Lather the soap and feel it squish through your fingers.  Dry your hands completely, taking the time to appreciate the act.  We know in the teaching profession how important the act of hand washing for our health and we do this many times a day but how often do we wash our hands mindfully?  Take these few extra seconds, breathe, be aware and be grateful.

3.  Each morning before exiting your car at work take a few minutes to check your breathing.  Be grateful for the day, be aware of your intention for the day at work.  Try to do a quick body scan to see if you are holding any tension and let it go.  If you aren’t really looking forward to the day, force a smile.  The silly act of putting a smile on your face on purpose while alone in your car will often produce a genuine smile!

4.   Be mindful about your cup of tea or coffee.  Over the years we have become accustomed to having our tea or coffee “to go” that we are no longer mindful about drinking it.  In fact, we have adult sippy cups to ensure that we don’t spill it and companies that put warnings on the side of cups to remind us that the contents might be hot.  As a society, we have become pretty mindless about drinking hot beverages.  Our coffee and tea have become caffeine that is fuel to be consumed rather than a comforting and tasty beverage to savoured and enjoyed. So take the time when drinking your hot drink.  Take the time to smell it, feel the warmth in your hands, to really look at it and to enjoy and be grateful for it.  


For more information about “Tea” Meditation and mindfulness visit Tea Meditation – Plum Village

5.  In order to incorporate mindfulness practice into your work life, practice it with your students.  Each day I have a morning meeting with my class.  I use a singing bowl to draw attention to our practice and we sit in a comfortable position.  We only do this for a few minutes each day but we pay attention to our breathing, we close our eyes or choose a spot to land a soft gaze.  The students have said that they can feel the energy in the room become more calm and peaceful.  I do the practice along with them.  I have grade 4 and 5 so we also talk about mindfulness and what it means.  It works hand in hand with self regulation.  If students are mindful about their behaviour then it becomes easier for them to practice self regulation strategies.

I do not claim to be any kind of mindfulness or meditation guru.  I have not painstakingly researched the positive effects of mindfulness from a scientific perspective.  I’m just an elementary teacher and mom trying to bring balance to my life, one moment at a time.

 

Michelle Fenn Communication Tools, Communication with Parents and Guardians, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Modern Learning, Professional Judgement, self reflection, Technology in school, Use of Technology, wellness, wellness

Finding Balance in a Digital World

When I first began teaching, over 20 years ago, I spent a lot of personal money on “resources”.  In teacher’s college I worked part time at The Teacher’s Store and spent the majority of my paycheque on black line master books, “units” and teacher’s guides, which took up space on my book shelves and in large plastic totes in my basement.  Now I can access free downloads, use Teacher’s Pay Teachers, Twitter, Pinterest or any number of educator websites.  It is difficult to deny that the use of technology is a huge part teaching.   I access the curriculum documents online on a regular basis. In fact, I don’t even own a paper copy of the curriculum documents.  Attendance, IEPs and report cards are now web-based.  Student portfolios are digital and parent communication is mostly electronic.  We communicate with our staff on Edsby and post our students’ triumphs using digital platforms such as Seesaw.  When I am away from school for the day, I book an occasional teacher online and send in my plans via email. As a parent, I pay for my son’s school trips online.  Almost everything we do in education seems to involve technology in some way.  It makes our job so much easier!  Doesn’t it?

Herein lies the rub.  As wonderful and “easy” as it all is, digital information and communication can also be suffocating.  For example, it is easy to ask a question of a colleague in my large school something by email or text and get an answer in seconds without having to take ten minutes to walk to his or her classroom.  However, it also may mean that I won’t see my colleague all week.  It is easy for a upset parent to send an email in the middle of the weekend and then I stew about it until I can take care of it when I am back at school on Monday.  It is easy to spend hours following the trail down an internet rabbit hole trying to find the “perfect” lesson plan.  It is easy to look at examples of art lessons on websites like Pinterest and then feel inadequate as an educator because mine didn’t go quite according to plan. It is easy to send an email in the middle of the weekend, just to get it done, when I should be spending time with my family.  It is easy to get into a chat on Twitter with educators around the world and learn all kinds of cool stuff, and then realize that I have missed going to the gym…again.  Digital information and communication is never done.  There is always something to check or answer or post.  Yes, I admit that it is a little ironic that I am writing this on a blog post, but wait…here’s why.

I have decided to try a few things so that digital information and communication will not suffocate me.  I have created “office hours” for communication.  I have told the families of my students that I will only respond to emails or messages on Edsby or Seesaw between the hours of 8 a.m. and 5 p.m. Monday to Friday. If I take the time to communicate something to families outside of office hours, then I will draft it and save it and send it during office hours.  If there is something urgent, families are instructed to call the school.  I have turned off notifications of email on my phone.  I no longer go on Pinterest and have stopped going on Twitter.  I will only check Edsby once a day.  If there is something of urgent importance, I have no doubt that someone will find me and let me know.  My students will update their own digital portfolios. I am going to try to be mindful of the amount of time I engage in digital communication and information for my job in order to maintain a healthy work-life balance.  It will take some practice and I’m sure that I will find myself getting into some old habits.  However, my mantra this year for my class is also for me…strive for growth and progress, not perfection.